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Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together.

Dear Cam, I've always been a sexual person, but I haven't been dating in the last few months because of life – school, work, family, that kind of thing. Because of this, I've been unintentionally celibate for a few months, and sometimes I feel like something is wrong with me. Is celibacy still valid even when you don't plan for it or have a super deep meaning, like for religion, attached?  -Accidentally Celibate   Accidentally Celibate, Celibacy doesn't often get enough love in the sex education world, but sex positivity means empowering everyone to make the best choices for themselves by providing information on everything. And if other sexual acts can be pleasurable and valid, why can't celibacy? For those who are unfamiliar, celibacy has a variety of definitions, but it's best known for being interpreted as the abstaining from sexual activity. Google dictionary defines it as "the state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations", but that seems very detached from how we regard other forms of sexual expression in our lives. Where sexual activity is often connected with other parts of our lives, celibacy is too often seen as separate, disconnected, and "less than". It's a looked down upon choice because the norm in our society is that everyone should want to and be able to have sex. That simply isn't true.
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You’re not advocating properly when you put  LGBTQ+ youth in the backburner.

I didn't know that when I grew up, I'd be advocating for reproductive justice and sexual education reform. I didn't know that I'd become a vocal person about the intersections between race, gender, and sexuality. If you asked me a few years ago, I wouldn't have known I'd become a digital activist.  In fact, I didn't I'd become very aware and disillusioned with the sexual education system. I grew up in the Bronx, a borough of New York City. As many people can safely assume, New York City is pretty liberal as most American cities go. Most of my life, I've gone to public schools, where it was mandatory to teach about HIV/AIDS but not explicitly sexual education. I ended up going to a Catholic, all-girls high school and got a decent sexual education. Instead of getting abstinence-only education, I ended up getting basic information on how to be protected during a sexual encounter and what to do to prevent pregnancy (my high school was also in a neighborhood that had a pretty high teen pregnancy rate, which might explain why they avoided abstinence-only education).
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