I witness Black folks of marginalized genders pleading with Black men to protect us, and I am completely devoid of any hope that they will. “Black men internalized the white man’s opinion of Black women." — ASSATA SHAKUR I would turn this world
Society must be answerable to the lives of those lost to the ramifications of toxic masculinity, in both the moral and physical sense.By Olivia Ahn [TW/CW: discussions about gun violence, murder, domestic violence and misogyny.] On Wednesday, at least 17 people were killed when 19-year-old Nikolas Cruz opened fire using a semiautomatic rifle at his former high school in Parkland, Florida. 14 other students were wounded, with five suffering from life-threatening injuries according to NBC news. The Boston Globe reported that Cruz had shown violent tendencies, was abusive to his ex-girlfriend, and his expulsions were related to a fight in regards to her new boyfriend. Since the shooting, authorities arrested Cruz in Coral Springs. He has been charged with 17 counts of premeditated murder. [caption id="attachment_49393" align="aligncenter" width="660"] Nikolas Cruz[/caption] Since the beginning of 2018, there have been 1,827 gun-related deaths in the U.S.. In 2017, The Gun Violence Archive reported 15,590 gun-related homicide deaths, domestically and climbing. Approximately 20 of these deaths received widespread national-level media attention. Of the 20 nationally-covered gun-related homicides last year, 100% of the gunmen were male, with 40% of the motives classified as an extension or direct act of domestic violence, intimate partner violence, and/or sexual assault or harassment. The Violence Policy Center (VPC) reported from 2001-2012 that approximately 11,766 women were killed by their current or ex boyfriends or husbands. Over half of these women were killed using a gun. If we are to critically address the issue of gun violence in the U.S., we must confront toxic masculinity’s foundational role in influencing and perpetuating these outcomes, especially in regards to its explicit impacts on the behavioral and mental health of men that proportionately affect the survival of women. The data above was featured in the 2015 documentary “The Mask You Live In”, which focused on the effects of toxic masculinity on young and adult men in The U.S.. The term toxic masculinity has been attributed to the cumulative work of psychologists and sociologists since the early 1980’s, stemming out of the Mythopoetic Men’s Movement. These men commonly defined toxic masculinity as the harmful, detrimental, and even destructive effects of high, demanding, and narrow cultural expectations of masculinity in society. Examples include socially acceptable male traits, such as dominance, emotional repression, the devaluation and subjugation of women, homophobia, extreme self-reliance, and most importantly, violence.
Much like intimate violence, gender identities and expressions that extend beyond the binary are subject to suspicion and flat-out denial. [TW- description of sexual assault and violence.] By Bani Amor Memory is a motherfucker. As an adult who copes with trauma from abuse, mostly
We are creating very violent conditions in queer spaces if we do not start being more vigilant in holding abusers accountable for the harm they cause in their interpersonal relationships.Queerness is a refutation of all things ordered, normative, and logical. At a time in our history, it operated as an epithet against gay and lesbian people. But it has now been reclaimed as a revolutionary identity — embodying transgression from the status quo and refusing to assimilate to the conventional societal standards. Queerness is not new, but our willingness to truly represent the identity as a lived experience and navigate an antithetical society under this lens can be quite complicated. And while a lack of order and understanding can be desirable for those seeking to live fully actualized lives, this can become an issue when queer people and bodies interact with one another intimately. Queer intimacy looks like nothing that we’re used to seeing on television or in our day to day lives. To be queer and in love is to build a new foundation for loving another human being without any context or guide. No queer relationship looks the same as another, and most folks in these relationships are making it up as they go – understanding what makes sense to them and how each partner’s lived experience will inform the dynamics of the relationship. And without a clear context for understanding these relationships, when it comes to interpersonal conflict, we tend to ignore or misconstrue signs of violence and harm.