The pain that comes with grief is not necessarily one which will leave, or even ease, but people’s deaths hold power, which we ought to channel in our lives. TW/CW: discussions and mentions of trauma, death, homophobic slurs, queerphobia, transphobia, and
I’m learning the importance of paying attention to the signs of grief, those approaching waves, so I’m more prepared to navigate them. By Carolyn Hinds “Watch wuh yuh doing. De sea ain’t got nuh backdoor” is a phrase every Bajan child would
To the grieving: you have every right to be angry. You have every right to be sad. You have every right to the space required to navigate your pain.We pay homage to our ancestors. We recognize and give thanks to the ancestors whose names we know and those we don’t. We ask them to hold us close. We ask them to keep our spirits strong and our hearts cradled. We ask for their assistance in the pursuit of justice for our peoples. Keep safe our indigenous, black, migrant, muslim, queer, trans and femme family. Watch over the womyn; they are our greatest warriors. May we be present for each other, but most importantly, present for ourselves. Ase.
We do not deserve the emotional, mental and physical assault that our communities are facing. We do not deserve the leadership we are being given. We do not deserve leadership that does not believe in the inherent and equal value of our black and brown lives. We do not deserve a leader who ignores us and lies to our faces with ignorant condescension. We deserve accountability. We, in fact, should be combatting the structures that have allowed patriarchal and white supremacist ideology to thrive. We should prioritize protecting the sacred. We should be dismantling the systems that continue to seek our obliteration. We have every right to a safe and fruitful existence on this earth, in each of our lives. You deserve breath. You deserve time to grieve. You deserve respite. You deserve justice. You have every right to be angry. You have every right to be sad. You have every right to the space required to navigate your pain. You have every right to retreat into self. You have every right to retreat to other folks of color, specifically. You have every right to define your spaces of safety and stay there. You have the right to each and every emotion flowing through your body right now.