When You're Disabled, Visibility and Representation is So Important As a writer with multiple physical and mental disabilities, I know first-hand how important it is to see other writers like myself in the world. Compared to many others, I'm still a
From a young age, it was made very clear to me that I was undesirable because of my disability.I recently wrote about loving someone who's chronically ill, and it occurred to me that I hadn't really written a more in-depth piece about desirability. It's a really important topic -- especially so able-bodied folks can check their ableism regarding what they find un/attractive. From a young age, it was made very clear to me that I was undesirable because of my disability. I believe I was in the first or second grade when the bullying began. Being a wheelchair user since I was in daycare, I stuck out like a sore thumb. I was always too ugly, too small, too disabled. As I grew up, the trauma and bullying only intensified. When I was young, anyone I was romantically interested in never reciprocated my feelings. I was always the "best friend." The boys I fell for when I was in middle school made it very clear to me that they never wanted to date me. Those who did "date" me told me later that they only did so because they felt sorry for me. Boys would even "date" me as a practical joke.
As someone who has been visibly disabled since birth, I've encountered an unthinkable amount of ableism. Not only that, the sheer amount of ridiculously intrusive questions I've been asked over the years? It's wild. I've heard some of the oddest
In March I wrote 5 Phrases That Are Actually Ableist. It received a lot of attention, and I realized there were more phrases I thought really needed some attention and deconstruction. Here are 5 more ableist phrases, along with some non-ableist alternatives. 1.