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From a young age, it was made very clear to me that I was undesirable because of my disability.

I recently wrote about loving someone who's chronically ill, and it occurred to me that I hadn't really written a more in-depth piece about desirability. It's a really important topic -- especially so able-bodied folks can check their ableism regarding what they find un/attractive. From a young age, it was made very clear to me that I was undesirable because of my disability. I believe I was in the first or second grade when the bullying began. Being a wheelchair user since I was in daycare, I stuck out like a sore thumb. I was always too ugly, too small, too disabled. As I grew up, the trauma and bullying only intensified. When I was young, anyone I was romantically interested in never reciprocated my feelings. I was always the "best friend." The boys I fell for when I was in middle school made it very clear to me that they never wanted to date me. Those who did "date" me told me later that they only did so because they felt sorry for me. Boys would even "date" me as a practical joke.
Related: 4 Tips for Dating When You Have a Disability

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