Kiese and Tressie both wrote for, to, and about those of us who carry Blackness with us everywhere we go. The thin white woman beside me folds her legs all the way up and gathers her knees to her chest. Her elbow is in my way and it nearly pokes me. “I’m so tiny,” […]
Feminists: Don’t Be A Dick To Justin Bieber
Recently, Justin Bieber’s penis has been showing up all over the internet. Now, you may be wondering why I am writing about Bieber, especially if you know me. If you think that Justin Bieber makes boring music, is a bit of a jackass, or just don’t care about him, I would say more power to you and that I could not agree more. However – and I absolutely cannot believe that I am saying this:
Justin Bieber is actually relevant to feminism for once in his life.
I had to take a deep breath before typing that bizarre sentence. You see, when photos of his cock were leaked, lots of feminists thought it would be fun to make fun of the guy who later said that he felt violated in an interview with Access Hollywood. Well, like, actually, he, like, said, like, something like this…. like….
“My first thing was like…how can they do this? Like, I feel super violated. Like, I feel like I can’t step outside and feel like I can go outside naked. Like, you should feel comfortable in your own space… especially that far away.”
Make fun of him for an array of other reasons, but the popstar has every right to feel violated and every right to voice his lack of comfort and fight against it. His penis should be treated no differently than Jennifer Lawrence’s vagina, unless, of course, you are physically and consensually interacting with it. Feminist magazines poke fun of the situation in multiple occurrences, one of them being Jezebel, in an article titled: “How To Talk To Your Significant Other About Justin Bieber’s Big Dick.”
Folks, this is why we can’t have nice things. We show our asses when some jerk has a moment of vulnerability and do not stick to our guns. You cannot fight for the protection of women in this situation and make fun of a man who is in the same spot. I get that there are differences, the main one being that the man is under less of a physical threat of danger. However, this extends beyond that. When we attack men for expressing vulnerability when they are in a position like this, we tell them that they cannot talk about other forms of sexual abuse and rape that they may have experienced. It isn’t the equal treatment that we continue to fight for and it upholds a sexist dichotomy. You’re feeding the male rights activist (MRA) trolls when you say one thing protecting female victims of sexual violence and chastise the male figures that speak about their own experiences. When we do this we uphold sexism by victim blaming. It does not matter how much you dislike the victim, it does not justify you to attack their completely reasonable reaction to seeing their genitalia all over the internet.
When you see a guy in a similar situation, I ask you to check yourself. Would you have the same attitude if it were a woman? Would you defend them? If the answer is yes, you are behaving like a hypocrite. Victim blaming is victim blaming, regardless of whether the person has an second “X” chromosome or a “Y.”