Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, Am I a bad Black person for being in a relationship with someone who's white? I feel like with everything going on in the world, it's
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together.Dear Cam, I've always been a sexual person, but I haven't been dating in the last few months because of life – school, work, family, that kind of thing. Because of this, I've been unintentionally celibate for a few months, and sometimes I feel like something is wrong with me. Is celibacy still valid even when you don't plan for it or have a super deep meaning, like for religion, attached? -Accidentally Celibate Accidentally Celibate, Celibacy doesn't often get enough love in the sex education world, but sex positivity means empowering everyone to make the best choices for themselves by providing information on everything. And if other sexual acts can be pleasurable and valid, why can't celibacy? For those who are unfamiliar, celibacy has a variety of definitions, but it's best known for being interpreted as the abstaining from sexual activity. Google dictionary defines it as "the state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations", but that seems very detached from how we regard other forms of sexual expression in our lives. Where sexual activity is often connected with other parts of our lives, celibacy is too often seen as separate, disconnected, and "less than". It's a looked down upon choice because the norm in our society is that everyone should want to and be able to have sex. That simply isn't true.
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together.Cam, I'm interested to hear your thoughts on manifesting and channeling your sexuality in a positive way. How to own your own sexuality and confidence without succumbing to extremes? -Spiritually Sensual Spiritually Sensual, This question got me really excited with its complexity. Firstly, it's important to understand exactly where your sexuality is coming from? These are questions that you can write down and figure out through journaling, meditating, or talking to a trusted person in your life (to yourself works as well) but some places to get started:
- When you think of your sexuality, what comes to mind?
- Do you associate mostly positive or negative emotions to it - and how do you want to be feeling about it?
- What areas of your sexuality do you want to change? What areas do you want to celebrate?