Alexis Arquette.

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Transgender actress and activist Alexis Arquette — sister to actresses Patricia and Rosanna Arquette — died this Sunday, Sep 11, at her home after an undisclosed long-term illness.

Unfortunately, her brother, Richmond Arquette, took to the internet and misgendered Alexis in the process of eulogizing her:

“I am feeling immense gratitude to have been afforded the luxury of sharing life with him/her, for learning from Alexis, for being given the gift of being able to love him/her and to be loved by him/her. He was a force,” Richmond continued.

“He died as he lived, on his own terms. I am immensely grateful that it was fast and painless. It was an incredibly moving experience and I am humbled and grateful to have been able to have been with him as he began his journey onward.”

“Thank you, Alexis, I love you and will love you always.”

Patricia Arquette also spoke out in memory of Alexis — this time respecting her pronouns.

“Alexis was born as Robert, our brother. We loved him the moment he arrived. But he came in as more than a sibling — he came as our great teacher. As Alexis transitioned into being a woman, she taught us tolerance and acceptance. As she moved through her process, she became our sister, teaching us what real love is,” she wrote. “We learned what real bravery is through watching her journey of living as a trans woman. We came to discover the one truth -— that love is everything.

“She passed away surrounded by love. We held her and sang her David Bowie’s ‘Starman’ as she punched through the veil to the other side,” the statement continued. “We washed her body in rose petals and surrounded her with flowers.”

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As a member of the Arquette family, acting was in Alexis’ blood. Arquette documented her transition process on film in the documentary Alexis Arquette: She’s my Brother, which debuted at the 2007 Tribeca Film Festival. She spent most of her career as a character actress, which many actors avoid. Unlike others, Arquette found great pleasure in a variety of roles, appearing in Pulp Fiction, The Wedding Singer, Bride of Chucky and Xena: Warrior Princess. She said of her career:

“I enjoy being a character actor; I enjoy being different in everything. I want a private life; I want to be able to go to 7-11 and not get into a fight with a guy because he saw me in a movie, or not have people hitting on me simply because they saw me in a movie.”

Rest in Power, Ms. Arquette.

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