This isn’t some “your kink is OK” thing. This was an act of racism and toxic masculinity, of marking territory, of demanding ownership and feeling entitled.

When I first saw that #watersportsgate was trending on Twitter and it had to do with Donald Trump, I dismissed it pretty quickly. I’ve been kinky my entire adult life, and frankly, stories about adults engaging in pervy sex are often sensationalist and dependent on making moralistic judgments about how others like to have sex. Boring, am I right?

But then I read the memo over on Buzzfeed, and I realized that all the journalists and commentators acting shocked about Trump flagging yellow hankies had missed something glaringly obvious while clutching their — dare I say it — pearl necklaces.

The act described in the memo isn’t an act of fetish. It’s not an act of sex.

“According to Source D, where s/he had been present, TRUMP’s (perverted) conduct in Moscow included hiring the presidential suite of the Ritz Carlton Hotel, where he knew President and Mrs. OBAMA (whom he hated) had stayed on one of their official trips to Russia, and defiling the bed where they had slept by employing a number of prostitutes to perform a ‘golden showers’ (urination) show in front of him.”

This is an act of power, control and a desire to humiliate others — not terribly surprising coming from Trump, someone who has repeatedly demonstrated a lack of respect for consent. It additionally needs to be seen as an act of white supremacy when it comes from a man who has consistently spouted racist rhetoric.

Which is why I was so disappointed to see so many in the sex-positive community jumping to speak up for the pissplayers. I mean, yes, when you’re into kinky sex and the media is saying how disgusting that is, I get that there’s a desire to educate and defend yourselves. But it rings hollow when the person you’re defending is someone who doesn’t understand risk-aware consensual kink, when they have been accused multiple times of sexual assault, when they have threatened women into silence.

Related: Trump Never Admits His Mistakes. Here’s Why That’s Dangerous.

We’re coming into a time when anyone straying from heterosexual, missionary-position sex for procreation may well find themselves at risk. Marginalized people are panicking about access to Planned Parenthood being defunded. The ACA being torn apart means terrible things for access to vital health care like hormones and medication. Porn is potentially being banned in several states. Even simply using the bathroom has become an even more heated political battleground. So while I understand the desire to defend kinky people against stigma, I think we’ve got pee issues that are a little more pressing and a lot more clear cut.

Trump is not into consensual watersports. There is no indication, even, that he interacted with pee in any way, or found any sexual enjoyment from the interaction. This isn’t some “your kink is OK” thing, from my reading of it — it’s not about sex. He didn’t hire sex workers to pee on him or each other; he hired them to pee on a bed the Obamas slept on as a method of defiling it. This was an act of racism and toxic masculinity, of marking territory, of demanding ownership and feeling entitled. We must call it out for what it is, or we risk fascism just becoming another hanky color.

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